I recently read a book called Life Is Messy by Matthew Kelly and I must say that I really recommend it! It is filled with some practical wisdom about life.
Not only is life messy, but it is also harsh and unpredictable. Throughout our lifetimes we will go through struggles and trials and even soul crushing disappointments and betrayals. It is during these moments that we learn some of the most important lessons we will ever attain.
Matthew Kelly has listed out much of the understanding that he has gained from going through such experiences. Some of these lessons you may have already learned, and others may have never crossed your mind before. But I believe that it is always best to learn through others than through personal experience.
Perhaps reading this book will save you some heartache by gaining a little wisdom through another's perspective instead of intimate participation.